**Warning--this is a big ol' rant.
I just got off the phone with a woman who doesn't know me--she'd like me if she did right? That's what Tobey said once after she cut a woman off in traffic, I loved it. 'Eh, they'd like me if they knew me.' The conversation went a little like this: 'You and your husband are adults. You have a family. Someone needs to be working to support yourselves.' I told her our situation and she said 'You do know you have to pay student loans back at some point, right?' Yes. Thank you. I am aware and planning on it. To which she said 'You have a kid. How can you expect not to work? You need to be doing at least 30 hours a week.' To which I said, 'Well, that's not going to happen.'
I tried to be polite and get through the business I needed to talk to her about in the first place. Albeit difficult as she repeated the 'Someone needs to work' phrase another six or seven times with an accompanying snicker.
She didn't make me feel bad. I made the choice to start our family, I made the choice to be home with her. I am completely satisfied and not a bit ashamed of that decision. So here's to you women who stay at home with your babies when the world can make you feel so inadequate or lazy because of that decision. Understandably, every family situation is different. I can respect women who choose otherwise--I don't know how they do all that they do. What incredible energy. I can also feel sadness that they don't get to be with their amazing children day to day. And some lucky women figure out how to do part-time at home during naps or have family to help. And I know I'm blessed that I don't have to work. But I wish some people could understand that we don't stay at home because we are uneducated, unmotivated, or unemployable. Give me a break. Thank you to all you intelligent, witty, interesting, creative, talented, exciting SAHM's who make me proud to do what I do.
When J got home and I was still annoyed he reminded me of something a guy in our ward said this week: 'A fool takes offense when none was intended. An even greater fool takes offense when it was intended.' Something like that. So I'm done thinking about it and taking offense to it. And thank you 'woman who will not be named' for reminding me to take the opportunity to say 'You Rock' to awesome women who inspire me.